Ike & Pam

Hi, we’re Ike and Pam and we wanted to first thank you for taking the time to consider us to be the couple to raise and love your child. We cannot imagine the difficult decision you are facing in choosing a future for your child, but we hope that our words and pictures give you a sense of who we are, the love we have for one another, the fun we have together, and the love and limitless opportunities that we want to share with your child.

You are considering giving the most courageous and unselfish gift to a couple who cannot have a child of their own. We want you to know that if you choose us as that couple, this precious gift would be loved, nurtured, and cherished for a lifetime. That’s our commitment to you. Thank you again for considering us and our wish is that we get a chance to meet you and get to know you better.

About Us

Ike and I actually attended the same high school and during our senior year dated briefly and even went to prom together. After graduation though, we went to different colleges.

However, in 1992 a crazy thing called fate intervened! I had decided to pursue graduate school. It was a week or two before I was to leave for college that I got a call from Ike. We had not spoken in a few years but he had heard from a mutual friend that I was attending graduate school at the same college he was completing his degree. After several minutes of small talk, Ike asked where I was living and to our complete surprise, we would be living in the same apartment building. Ike’s next question was what floor and room number. After hearing the answer, there was a brief pause and then he just started laughing. It turned out that our apartments were right across the hall from each other. After hanging up from that conversation, we had to question if fate had thrown us back together at this point in our lives. The answer to that question was YES!

Our second “first” date was New Year’s Eve 1993. Four years later on New Year’s Eve he proposed. Later that same year we were married in a beautiful church wedding surrounded by our family and friends. Now eighteen years later, fourteen of those married, we thank God everyday for giving us that second opportunity to find each other.

We were both born and raised in North Carolina. As you have learned, we attended high school together so we have known each other for over twenty four years. Ike and I are truly best friends. We share similar interests and have an uncanny sense of knowing what each other is thinking.

Ike has a bachelor’s degree in biochemistry and works in quality materials management for a large biopharmaceutical company. I have a doctorate in higher education administration and work as a college administrator. We both highly value education and would make sure that your child would have every educational opportunity available to him/her.

We also both grew up actively participating in sports. If this is something that your child has an interest in, we would be his/her biggest cheerleader. We can’t wait to coach little league, basketball or soccer, travel to games and be there to celebrate victories or comfort during losses. No matter what he/she is passionate about, we will support and encourage his/her talents and interests.

We are a loving couple who can’t wait to become first-time parents through adoption. We welcome the opportunity to teach a child how to ride a bike, how to swim, or how to shoot a free throw. Ike can’t wait to share his passion for golfing and the outdoors while I want to share my love of reading and education. We will teach him or her how to be strong, independent and caring of others. Above all, he or she will have a home filled be lots of hugs and kisses, laughter and fun.

Pam about Ike

Ike is truly my best friend and I feel so blessed that he is part of my life. He is considerate, smart, supportive, has a great sense of humor and a huge heart. He has such a genuine concern for his family and friends and they value and respect his opinion. He is a loving husband and wonderful uncle. He always has a positive attitude on life which tends to draw people to him.

He absolutely loves college football and we have season tickets to his alma mater. We have seats with our best friends from college and he loves watching these games with our goddaughter. He also enjoys hiking, skiing, working outside in the yard, woodworking and exercising. He is definitely “Mr. Fix-It” around the house. Ike is laid-back, responsible, and level-headed. Above all, he is extremely patient and I know that these traits will make him an amazing Dad.

Ike about Pam

Pam is a very caring, fun-loving individual. We have a lot in common and we both enjoy working on household projects together, watching movies, traveling and playing golf. She enjoys spending time with family and friends. Our neighbor’s children love to be around her and she is such a natural with them. I can’t wait to see her be a mother.

Pam is athletic and loves playing all sports. She also likes to curl up on the couch and real a good mystery novel. She is a great baker and makes yummy cakes, cookies, and sweets. She is smart, organized, a great listener, patient and nurturing. Her passion for education will ensure a child would grow-up with a love of learning. From helping with homework, attending parent/teacher conferences, chaperoning field trips and joining the PTA, Pam will be actively involved and be a great role model.

Our Family

We have been truly blessed to have parents that have loved us unconditionally and who have shown us through practice what it means to be the type of parents that their children look up to and admire. We both talk with our parents several times during the week. Ike has two brothers while I have one brother. Combined, we have nine nieces and nephews, two of which were adopted, that we love to spend time with. Our parents and siblings all live within 3 hours of us so we are able to spend holidays, birthdays and family vacations together. Our parents actually live within 30 minutes of each other so all holidays are spent at both homes. This would mean there would be no splitting of holidays and that both set of grandparents wouldn’t miss any celebrations or milestones.

Ike’s oldest brother lives in our neighborhood so we get to see our niece and nephew often. We love going to their basketball and soccer games but also enjoy just shooting some hoops in the driveway, watching movies, putting Lego models together, or playing a videogame on Xbox.

Our Faith

We are a Christian couple that believes in Christian morals and values. We attend a small church a few miles from our home. We hope to instill the values we learned as children from our parents in our child. Children learn by example and we promise to be excellent role models for your child. We will raise a child to be their own person, one who is strong and independent but also has a sense of compassion and respect of others.

Fun Times

We are a laid-back, fun loving couple that is always laughing and joking around. It really doesn’t make any difference what we are doing because we just like spending time together. We enjoy playing golf and love to travel. Some of our favorite vacations include San Francisco, Las Vegas, Saint Augustine, Austin, New York and Cozumel, Mexico. Our most recent trip was a cruise to the Bahamas. We hope to one day add Disney World to one of our favorite locations; one that we can experience through the eyes of a child.

We have an amazing group of friends who all have children. We like to get together often and grill on the BBQ or take vacations together. We often spend holidays such as July 4th and birthday celebrations as a group. It’s become an annual tradition to spend New Year’s Eve together and at midnight we have fireworks for the kids to enjoy.

Also, annual trips to the beach are always something we look forward to. All our friends are extremely supportive and excited about our decision to adopt and can’t wait to welcome and include our child in all these activities.

Our Home

We live in a beautiful three bedroom and two and a half bath home in a family friendly golf course community. We have a large family room that would make the perfect playroom. Ike built a window seat with storage in the room that is just waiting to be turned into a toy box filled with toys, books, stuffed animals, and games. We have a large backyard and we have already picked out a spot for a swing set. In our neighborhood we have a pool, tennis courts, playground, and a wonderful clubhouse with a driving range and putting green. We love our neighborhood and it’s filled with couples our age that have children. On a typical weekend you will find moms and dads pushing strollers around the neighborhood for exercise while older children ride their bikes. We can’t wait for the day that will be us in the neighborhood.

About Adoption

From the very beginning, we always envisioned our life together with children. After six years of trying to conceive, a miscarriage, and one failed attempt at in-vitro fertilization, we realized that we were not going to be able to have children of our own and that God has a different plan, one that led us to you! Although infertility was painful, we have come to understand that building our family through adoption was what was meant for us all along.

We feel that it is extremely important to be open and honest with a child about his/her adoption from the beginning. We plan to have children’s books that talk about adoption that we will begin to read to them very early. We also plan to keep pictures and stories throughout the adoption process so they will know the amazing way we became a family. Your child will always know how much you care for them and wanted to give them the best of life. They will know your selfless decision came from a place of unconditional love.

We are so grateful for the consideration that you are giving us. Know that we are ready for the tremendous responsibility and honor of becoming parents and you have our promise that your child will always be treasured and deeply loved.

If you’d like to learn more about this family contact us by either calling our birthmother hotline operator at 1-877-890-4673 (HOPE) or by e-mailing us.