What to Do When Your Baby’s Father Doesn’t Support Your Adoption Decision

The expectant mothers who contact A Child’s Hope come from many different backgrounds, have many different reasons for choosing adoption, and have many different types of relationships with their babies’ birth fathers.

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and are considering adoption, you may be concerned about the impact your baby’s father could have on your adoption plans — specifically, if your baby’s birth father opposes your adoption plan. If you’re in this situation, you may be asking, “Does the father have to give consent for adoption in North Carolina, and how do I complete an adoption without parental consent?”

If you’re a mother who wants to place a baby for adoption but the father does not, know that you do have options — but you’ll need to work closely with an adoption counselor who knows all about the legalities of birth father rights in adoption in North Carolina. This can be a complicated part of your adoption, so it’s important that you speak to a professional if you think you might have to complete an adoption without the consent of the father. What A Child’s Hope can legally do in regards to your situation will depend on your circumstances.

For immediate help, please call us for free at 890-877-4673, text PREGNANT to 919-971-4396 or email ach@achildshope.com. In the meantime, here is some important information you should know about adoption without parental consent in North Carolina.

Can I Place My Child for Adoption without the Father’s Consent?

There are a number of reasons why you may be wondering if you can place your child for adoption without father consent:

  • He is unknown or can’t be located
  • He doesn’t agree with your adoption decision
  • He is in and out of your life sporadically
  • He is trying to force you to get an abortion
  • He is incarcerated
  • He is abusive

If any of the above situations sound familiar, our adoption counselors may be able to help you proceed with your adoption plans.

We can meet with your baby’s father to explain the adoption process, help him understand your adoption decision and provide the support he needs to get on board with your adoption plan. If he is still opposed to the adoption after meeting with your counselor, we can provide legal assistance to identify your options for moving forward without his consent.Birth Father Relinquishment Papers

While the birth father’s consent may not be required to complete your adoption, he is entitled to notice of the adoption under North Carolina law. In adoption when the father is unknown, our agency may need to work with an investigator or provide notice by publication in a newspaper to help identify the birth father.

It is important that you give your adoption counselor as much information as possible about the birth father so we can locate him, give him notice of the adoption, and help you complete the adoption process safely and legally. If the biological father knows that you are pregnant and has not supported you during the pregnancy, his consent may not be necessary.

What You Should Do

If you think you’ll need an adoption without parental consent, as mentioned above, contact a counselor at A Child’s Hope right away. We encourage you to speak to us and learn more before you approach your baby’s birth father and tell him about your adoption, as we may determine that it would be best for us to provide him notice of your adoption plan instead.

At this point in your pregnancy and adoption plan, your first priority should be you and your child. Make sure that you are in a safe place, and if you feel like disagreement from your baby’s birth father could put you in danger, contact us or the North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence hotline for immediate help.

Remember, adoption is a decision that only you can make; a birth father should not pressure you into a decision that you don’t think is right, no matter what your relationship is like. While unsupportive birth fathers can create difficulties in your adoption plan, keep in mind that many who originally don’t support adoption do so because they lack accurate information about the adoption process. After you’ve talked to your adoption counselor, you may feel comfortable telling him more about the realities of adoption and how he can be involved in his baby’s future. Sometimes, understanding why adoption is best for you, him and your baby will make him realize that he wants to support and be involved in your adoption process.

Whether your baby’s father is supportive, unsupportive, uninvolved or unknown, your adoption counselor can provide the information and guidance you need to understand your options for moving forward with the adoption process.

To learn more about the role and rights of your baby’s father in the adoption process, even if he doesn’t support your adoption decision, contact A Child’s Hope for free, no-obligation adoption information.

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