When it comes to placing a child for adoption in North Carolina, an ideal situation includes a supportive prospective birth father who is involved every step of the way. While many prospective birth mothers who work with us don’t have their baby’s father involved in the adoption process, there are also many women who go through the adoption process with their baby’s father by their side.
Many prospective birth mothers choose adoption because they already have children and understand that they aren’t currently in a position to raise another — and, in many cases, they’re in committed relationships with or married to their baby’s father. Together, they make the adoption decision for the best of their unborn child. If your baby’s father supports your adoption plan, he can be as involved in the adoption process as you want him to be, including:
While there are many reasons why it may be difficult to include the birth father in the adoption process, you can also contact A Child’s Hope if you are married or have a positive relationship with your baby’s father. It is not uncommon for couples to choose adoption together, and having the support of your baby’s father can simplify the adoption process.
It’s not uncommon for married couples or life partners to face unplanned pregnancies, and many end up choosing adoption together for the best interest of their baby. You do not have to raise a child just because you’re married or in a committed relationship; you should always do what’s best for them, even if it means placing them with an adoptive family. While it may be a difficult decision to make, you and your baby’s father may choose together to place your baby for adoption.
Having your baby’s father involved in the adoption process can be invaluable — he’ll not only be able to provide you emotional support throughout the journey but may also provide practical support by taking care of any other children you have while you’re at appointments, providing financial support if you miss work for your pregnancy, and giving you other assistance.
If your baby’s father wants to be involved in the adoption process, your adoption counselor will work with you both from the beginning of the adoption process. You can mutually create an adoption plan that you’re both comfortable with, choose and meet a prospective adoptive family together and both be involved in future open or semi-open adoption contact.
Even if you are married, you will receive all of the same services that a single prospective birth mother receives — but also the added support of your baby’s father throughout the process.
In other scenarios, the birth father is supportive but does not want to be involved in the adoption plan. In these cases, the father only needs to meet with your adoption counselor once to give his legal consent to the adoption. In North Carolina, he can give his consent any time before or after the baby is born. There is a seven-day period in which he can revoke his consent. We offer free DNA testing to determine who the birth father is.
You may be disappointed if your baby’s father does not want to be directly involved in the process, but it’s important to remember how special it is for him to be supportive of your decision in the first place. You should make sure to let him know how much his support means to you, even if he is not involved in the adoption process at all.
If you and your baby’s birth father have different preferences for the adoption, that’s okay; your adoption specialist can work with you separately or together to create an adoption plan. For example, if you want more communication with the adoptive family than your baby’s birth father does, we can set up separate contact schedules that meet both of your desires.
If your baby’s father wants no part in your adoption plan, that’s okay, too. Your adoption specialist will work with him to get his necessary legal consent and, if he changes his mind about involvement, will be there for any questions or concerns he has.
We know that each prospective birth mother’s situation with her baby’s birth father is unique, so whether he wants to be involved or not, A Child’s Hope can help. To learn more about the birth father’s involvement in your adoption process, please call our Pregnancy Hotline: (919) 971-4396, or Text: Pregnant to (919) 971-4396, or email firstname.lastname@example.org.