When you’re a prospective birth mother considering adoption for your baby, you might think giving your child up for adoption to a family member is the perfect solution. Maybe you have a friend or family member who’s always wanted a child, who’s also someone you know and trust to raise your baby. And, when you place your child for adoption with a friend or family member, you may think that you’ll have a more open adoption where you can see your child grow up and be an active part of their life.
While a relative infant adoption does provide these advantages, you may not know that these types of adoptions also have some unexpected challenges, and that placing your child with another adoptive family through A Child’s Hope provides many of the same exact advantages. We know that each prospective birth mother’s situation is unique, so for you, giving a baby up for adoption to a family member in North Carolina may be the right choice — but you should learn more about the pros and cons of each option before deciding which one is best for you.
Our counselors are always available to answer any questions you have if you give us a call at 877-890-4673, where we can explain more about the adoption process in North Carolina. You can also text PREGNANT to 919-971-4396 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you’re asking, “Can I let a family member adopt my baby after delivery?” there are some important things to consider first.
When pregnant women choose to place their child with a friend or family member, it’s usually because they want to keep their baby close to them and don’t want them to be raised by strangers. These are completely valid points and may indeed lead to a positive adoption experience for you and your family or friends. Some common benefits of adoption by a family member or friend include:
Giving your child up for adoption to a family member may be an option for you, but it’s important to remember that each birth mother’s and family’s situations will be different, so what you think may be advantages may actually lead to more conflict later on if you don’t carefully consider the possibilities. Some of these are:
Before you decide to place your child for adoption with a family member or friend, it’s crucial that you consider all the possible outcomes of doing so. Our counselors can further explain what your kinship adoption might look like and what challenges might be involved so you can make an educated decision about what’s best for your baby, not just what seems easier at first.
The good news is that many of the reasons you may consider a relative adoption in the first place can also be addressed in an adoption with another family through A Child’s Hope. While you may not know prospective adoptive parents when you first choose them, we will give you a chance to meet them and ask any questions you have. Many of our birth mothers and adoptive families end up developing a strong, genuine relationship where they view each other as extended family members.
In addition to a strong relationship, you can ensure open adoption contact communication with a postadoption contact agreement. Our counselors will help you find the perfect adoptive parents for your baby — which means parents who agree with your contact preferences and are committed to keeping up with them. That way, you know that you will be a part of your child’s life from even before the adoption process begins. Our counselors will also hold both parties responsible for open adoption communication by mediating for as long as necessary.
We know that each situation is unique, so even if you’re considering giving a baby up for adoption to a family member in North Carolina, our counselors can help you understand the adoption process and move forward with a solution that works for you. To learn more, please contact us today for free and with absolutely no obligation.
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