When you decide that adoption is right for you and your baby, one of the biggest questions you probably have is, “Who will adopt my baby?” Fortunately, in today’s modern open adoptions, you not only get the chance to choose which prospective adoptive parents will adopt your baby, but you’ll also get to meet them and ask them whatever questions you have before making this important decision.
But what exactly are the questions to ask adoptive parents when you meet them for the first time? How do you know what to ask adoptive parents and what not to ask when you’re trying to determine if they would be a perfect family for your unborn baby?
Talking with adoptive parents can seem overwhelming, but you should know that a counselor from A Child’s Hope will be there not only to help you prepare interview questions to ask adoptive parents but also to mediate your first conversation (and any additional conversations you may need). We know how important it is to make sure that an adoptive family is right for your baby, which is why we’ll help you find out everything you need to know before selecting one.
To learn more about how we help you find the perfect adoptive family, you can contact us for free today by calling our Pregnancy Hotline: (919) 971-4396, or Text: Pregnant to (919) 971-4396, or email firstname.lastname@example.org. Here’s how the pre-placement contact process goes with a prospective adoptive family at A Child’s Hope:
Before you even meet a prospective adoptive family, your adoption counselor will help you determine your preferences for an adoptive family. From there, she’ll show you profiles of families who match your desires. If you find a family that you like, your counselor will set up a match meeting between you and them.
To help you decide if a family is right for you, you’ll have the opportunity to speak to them in-person. Your adoption counselor will be there to assist you both in this meeting, and she’ll mediate the conversation so both parties feel comfortable and can find out what they want to know. This meeting usually takes place somewhere you’re comfortable, like a local restaurant in your hometown.
If you decide that a prospective adoptive family is the right one from this first conversation, your adoption counselor will finalize your match and move you forward with the adoption process. (If you’re not sure if the family is the right fit, that’s okay; your counselor can set up additional meetings or start searching for other prospective adoptive families). You’ll be able to start building your relationship with the adoptive family in whatever way you’re comfortable — emails, letters, phone calls, etc. — and your adoption counselor will be there if you ever have any questions about appropriately talking with the adoptive parents.
While these steps may seem simple, we know it can be stressful to think about what questions to ask adoptive parents and what questions not to ask adoptive parents during the initial match meeting. It’s understandable that you want to get as much information as possible, but you may be nervous about saying or asking the wrong thing. Remember, your adoption counselor will be there to offer advice and preparation whenever you need it.
When you meet with prospective adoptive parents for the first time, you will probably already have a list of questions you’ll ask them. These questions to ask an adoptive family could be questions about who they are, their lifestyle and how they’ll raise your child. After all, these are the important things you need to know when you’re deciding who will adopt your baby.
Your adoption counselor will help you create a list of questions to ask potential adoptive parents, but here are some good ones to start with:
These are just some questions to ask potential adoptive parents, and some may already be answered when you view their adoptive family profile. So, while you’re viewing their profile, it’s a good idea to write down any questions that may come up — that way they can be answered in your first match meeting.
Equally important are topics to avoid when you’re first meeting with an adoptive family. Your adoption counselor will give you a basic explanation of the prospective adoptive parents’ situation before meeting them, including any sensitive issues to avoid, but here are some topics you should generally avoid talking about when you first meet them:
There may seem like a lot to consider for your first conversation with the prospective adoptive family, but your adoption counselor will be there to help you prepare as much as you need her. This first match meeting is a key part of finding the perfect adoptive family for your baby, so it’s important that you get all of the answers you need to make an informed decision that’s best for both of you. Knowing which questions to ask adoptive parents is just one part of that.
To learn more about how we can help you find a prospective adoptive family that’s perfect for your baby, please contact us today for our free, no-obligation services.