Sometimes, when a pregnant woman double-guesses her adoption decision, she asks herself: “Can I get my child back after adoption?”
If you find yourself asking this question, know that you’re not alone. It’s common for women considering adoption to doubt their choice because of the grief, loss and other confusing emotions they feel.
However, you need to know that you cannot get your child back after an adoption is finalized and completed. For the best interest of all involved, especially the adopted child, adoptions are rarely reversed in the state of North Carolina. So, if you’re having doubts about your adoption decision, you should not rely on your ability to take your child back if you change your mind.
That’s not to say that you don’t have certain adoption rights in North Carolina. In fact, North Carolina provides one of the longest revocation periods in the country — which allows you to take back your adoption consent within a certain time period after you sign away your parental rights. In North Carolina, you have the ability to revoke your adoption consent within seven days of giving it. To gain back your parental rights, you must work closely with your attorney and your adoption professional to follow the correct legal procedures, which involves giving written notice to the prospective adoptive parents.
If you change your mind again and give your consent to the adoptive parents a second time, there will be no revocation period, meaning your adoption decision will be final.
At A Child’s Hope, your adoption counselor and your adoption attorney will make sure you understand all of your adoption rights in North Carolina as a prospective birth mother — and, before you sign any sort of adoption consent, that you understand exactly what this decision means. If you have questions about your adoption rights, you can always talk to an adoption counselor at 877-890-4673, text PREGNANT to 919-971-4396 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
When you’re a pregnant woman considering adoption, remember that you always have the right to change your mind about your adoption decision any time before you sign your consent to adoption. This means that even after you have matched with an adoptive family and given birth to your baby, you can still decide that parenting is your right decision.
In North Carolina, once your child is born, you do not have to wait a certain amount of time before giving your adoption consent. Whenever you decide you are ready to sign your adoption consent paperwork, here’s what the process will generally look like:
After seven days have passed and you do not revoke your consent, you will have no more parental rights to your child. However, if you think your consent was given under fraud or duress and you wish to get your baby back after adoption, it’s best to contact your adoption lawyer to see what options are available to you.
If you’re preparing to sign your adoption consent and wondering, “Can I get my baby back after adoption?” it may mean you’re not ready to make your adoption decision — and that’s perfectly okay. Your adoption counselor will be available to discuss your emotions and help you decide what’s best for you and your baby at this point in your decision process. In addition, if you think you want to revoke your adoption consent, your counselor will help you determine whether your feelings are normal expressions of grief after an adoption or really mean that adoption is not the right choice for you.
In addition to the right to change your mind at any point in the adoption process, you will have several other adoption rights as a prospective birth mother. Remember, you will be in charge of your adoption process from the beginning to end, so you will be able to decide what you’re comfortable with and change your preferences if you need to.
When you work with A Child’s Hope to complete your adoption, we will respect all of your rights in the adoption process, including your:
If you choose an open adoption in North Carolina, your adoption counselor will help mediate any contact between you and the adoptive family, if necessary. While open adoption is not legally enforceable in North Carolina, we will work to protect your birth mother rights in open adoption by reminding the adoptive family of their communication commitment, if necessary. You will still have no parental rights after you give a baby up for adoption, but A Child’s Hope will strive to make your open adoption as positive an experience as possible.
Remember, your adoption process and what you’re comfortable with will be entirely up to you. Your adoption counselor will work with you every step of the way so you’re aware of your adoption rights and you make the decisions that are best for you and your baby.
There’s no denying that adoption can be a difficult process, but you should never be forced into a decision you’re not ready to make. If you’re having doubts about whether adoption is right for you, especially if you’re thinking about getting your baby back after adoption, we encourage you to talk to our adoption specialists for free immediate counseling and assistance at 877-890-4673, text PREGNANT to 919-971-4396 or email email@example.com. At A Child’s Hope, we will always respect your adoption rights as a prospective birth mother and make sure you receive all the adoption support you need to make the best decision for you and your baby, whatever it is.
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