Adoption

OPENNESS IN ADOPTION: FROM SECRECY AND STIGMA TO KNOWLEDGE AND CONNECTIONS

A major new report depicts just how extensively adoption in the U.S. has changed over the last several decades – from a time when it was shrouded in so much secrecy that birth and adoptive families knew nothing about each other, to a new reality today in which the vast majority of infant adoptions are “open,” meaning the two families have some level of ongoing relationship.

The institution of adoption has made significant strides in the last several decades, but elements of its clandestine, stigmatized past remain – and, as a consequence, so do many myths, misconceptions and inaccurate stereotypes. One stark example is that even though openness in adoption is fast becoming the norm within the United States (especially in the placement of infants), the very notion of “open adoption” – which entails varying levels of ongoing connections between adoptive families and their children’s families of origin – is unfamiliar, misunderstood and even incomprehensible to much of our culture.

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Authors: Deborah H. Siegel, Ph.D. and Susan Livingston Smith, LCSW
Published: 2012 March, New York NY: Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute

 

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Michael and Katy – zip line anyone?

Large families, zip lines, and snuggly puppies!  That’s what life is like with Katy and Michael – along with sci-fi/fantasy books and movies and the Big Bang Theory on TV.

Katy is a special education teacher, and Michael is a mechanical engineer who loves to take things apart to see how they work.  Time for a baby to share the fun! They long for the day when they can introduce their adopted baby to their niece Ella and do all the fun things they like to do, from playing football and ultimate Frisbee in the back yard, hikes through the woods, read lots of books, and eating hot dogs while watching a baseball game. They have so many fun things in store for the child they’re hoping to adopt soon!

A Big thank you to Michael and Katy for allowing us to tell their story!

Do you have a story you’d like to tell?  Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com.  Visit us at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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Have you ever been late for a date?

Hunter almost blew his first date with Laura when he was late on their first date, but he finally made it, and neither one of them ever wanted the night to end!  Hunter and Laura’s friends had been trying to set them up for months, but Hunter got impatient and took matters into his own hands and called Laura. After talking for several hours, SHE asked him out!

When their dogs met the next day and became best friends, the handwriting was in the cards, and their friendship grew into marriage in 2008.  They walked down the aisle to “Here Comes the Sun” by the Beatles instead of the traditional wedding march – that is how they roll!

Now they like to fish at the beach and work and play in their 10-acre back yard.  They are waiting to adopt a boy or girl to share the fun!

A Big thank you to Hunter and Laura  for allowing us to tell the story of their family!  You can also visit their Facebook page at: http://on.fb.me/SDPkoa

Do you have a story you’d like to tell?  Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com.  Visit us at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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Saying Hello Before Saying Goodbye…

You will be saying goodbye to your baby.  We encourage you to say “hello” and spend time with your baby before you place him or her with the adoptive family you have chosen.  Time in the hospital can be used to feed him or her, change, sing, snuggle, and rock your baby.  However you wish to spend this time is up to you! Many birth mothers ask for 24 hours to be with the baby just by herself, and take pictures. We encourage you to bring a special outfit for the baby and dress him or her. You do not want to regret later on not having that special time.  Birth mothers who take the time at the hospital to be with their child have a very precious memory that stays with them forever.

Do you have a story you’d like to tell?  Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com.  Visit us at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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Ever wondered what you would be getting into if you stayed at home with the kids?

Mike wasn’t sure what he was getting into when he decided to stay home with the kids, but he loves it!  Mike is a stay-at-home dad, and Sheila is a Certified Public Accountant.  So he is a “Mr. Mom” and Sheila goes to the office each day.

The list of what the family enjoys is very long.  They enjoy music, sports, board games, traveling, amusement parks…the list goes on and on!  Mike and Dylan (age 9) take guitar lessons, and Summer (age 7) is starting piano lessons.  And Presley (age 2), who knows what instrument she’ll decide to pick up, but whatever it is, her family will be right there to help her along.

“Being a family is about the people who love and support you no matter what.”  That’s what Mike and Sheila believe, and along with Dylan, Summer and Presley, they are ready to love and support their next child no matter what!

A Big thank you to Mike, Sheila for allowing us to tell the story of their family!

Do you have a story you’d like to tell?  Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com.  Visit us at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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Sharing Their Dreams!

Rob and Emily both work in health care. Emily is a nurse who works three days a week – a great schedule for raising kids! And Rob is a graduate student in radiology.

They have a large, extended family that lives close, so there are lots of family get-togethers and vacations. Rob and Emily are an active couple who enjoy traveling, fishing, hiking, and just spending time outdoors with their chocolate lab, Bailey! They are living their dream and want a child to share it with.

A Big thank you to Rob & Emily for allowing us to tell their story!

Do you have a story you’d like to tell? Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com. Visit us at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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Adoption Comes Naturally!

Family comes first for Jim and Shannon.  They spend lots of time with their brothers and sisters, and their children, several of whom are adopted.   That’s why Shannon always knew she would adopt.  Family activities involve traveling, kayaking and horseback riding, and Jim’s mother is just waiting to make a quilt for their new baby.  Now all they need is the new baby!

A big thank you to Jim & Shannon for allowing us to tell their story!

Do you have a story you’d like to tell?  Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com.  Visit us at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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It All Started As Friends!

This couple started out as friends soon after college, their relationship grew, and they were married in 1999.  Kristen and Dave love sports, travel, volunteer work, and they are dedicated to their friends and family.  Their five year old son Aidan will make an exceptional big brother.

Among the things they plan to teach their children: that laughter and comfortable shoes are the secrets to happiness!  Dave, Kristen and Aidan live in a newly remodeled house with lots of room for kids to play, inside and out, and they hope to adopt a baby soon!

A big thank you to Dave, Kristen and Aidan for allowing us to tell the story of their family!

Do you have a story you’d like to tell?  Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com.  Visit us at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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Celebrating 275 Adoptive Placements!!

Every placement day in our office is a tug at your heart strings sort of day, but when we reach significant numbers here at the agency we are very proud and very happy!

Last week baby Caroline was brought in to meet her adoptive parents for the first time.  She was  the 275th baby that our agency A Child’s Hope has placed for adoption. Each one has been and will always be very special.

We are very proud to have played a part in uniting so many birthparents and waiting adoptive parents over the years.  Adoption is truly a loving way to build a family!

Thank you to all 275 families that have allowed us to be a part of this very special time in their lives!

Do you have a story you’d like to tell?  Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com.  Visit us at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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Afraid your baby will not know that he or she looks like you??

Adopted children want to know how they look like their birth parents, and adoptive families like to
be able to tell them. There is no denying biology, and in adoption, any information that the adoptive
parents can pass on give the adopted child a sense of identity.

The child you place for adoption will always have your heart, and will also have some of your physical
features. Whether your child inherits your eyes or the birth father’s height and long legs, this
information is told the adoptive child with love and appreciation.

Do you have a story you’d like to tell? Email us at blog.ach@foryourlife.com. Visit us
at www.AChildsHope.com, or call our Birth Mother Hotline at 1-877-890-HOPE (4976) so one of our
adoption counselors can answer your questions confidentially.

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anyone.

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