A pregnant woman who makes the difficult decision to place her child for adoption may do so for many unselfish reasons. Perhaps she is young and doesn’t feel ready for the tremendous responsibility of raising a child. Perhaps finances or family situations make it difficult to bring a child into the fold.
Regardless of the reason, a birth mom still wants to ensure that her child grows up in a loving home. She wants to know if the adoptive parents will treat the child well. She wants assurance that the child will be truly loved, and will feel like a natural part of the family.
At A Child’s Hope, we talk with adoptive parents at different points before, during and after the adoption process, and we hear wonderfully reassuring success stories of how an adoption led to a “happily ever after” ending for both the child and the adoptive family.
Here are a couple of examples:
Deanna always knew she wanted to be a mom, but a physical condition made it unlikely that she could safely become pregnant and give birth. By the time she was married and ready to start a family, several relatives offered to become surrogates, but Deanna had researched adoption and knew it was the best option for her and her husband, Ben.
Deanna and Ben adopted their first child, Ava, through A Child’s Hope. Although their little girl has a different heritage and doesn’t look like them, her personality is a blend of both of theirs. A few years later, Deanna and Ben adopted a second child, and three years after that, they completed their family with the adoption of a third child.
Both the second and third child were premature and required special care and attention early in life, but with love and support from their family, both children are healthy, happy and thriving.
“Not a day goes by that I do not look at my kids and think how lucky I am to be their mother,” Deanna says.
Ava’s birth mother knows that Ava is doing well because she receives photos and letters on a schedule that she, Deanna and Ben agreed upon before the baby’s placement.
Tracy was nearly 40-years-old, and had always wanted a family. Unfortunately, she had not met Mr. Right, and wondered if having a husband or a child would be in her future. She began to think about adoption, but was concerned about taking it on as a single mom. However the more she began to consider it, the more she knew in her heart that this was the right answer.
Tracy adopted a little girl ten years ago. “She is my daughter. She always comes first. Adopting Mia is the best thing I have ever done and I would absolutely do it again. “
Although Tracy and Mia are of different races, it doesn’t matter to either—in their home, family, like love, is colorblind.
Mia’s birth mother did not have to wonder if Mia was happy. Over the years, she has received photos and letters from Tracy, as agreed upon before Mia’s birth, reinforcing to Mia’s birthmother that she had made the right decision.
Our success stories are more the rule than the exception. Birth mothers who are considering placing their child for adoption, are encouraged to contact A Child’s Hope on our 24-hour hotline at 877-890-4673 or text “pregnant” to 919-971-4396. Our compassionate counselors can listen and provide the information you need to make the best decision for you and your child.
*names have been changed to protect privacy