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Six Questions About Placing a Child for Adoption During the Coronavirus

Q. The courts are closed. Are adoptions still happening in NC?

A. Yes. Most counties in North Carolina are allowing filings at the courthouse, which means adoption files are being opened and processed. At A Child’s Hope, we filed three adoption petitions in March, placing the paperwork in designated boxes located at the courthouse to prevent attorneys and staff from going into the Clerk’s office.

Q. Will I be all alone at the hospital?

A. In North Carolina, we see hospitals allowing only the pregnant woman and ONE support person in the labor and delivery room. Also, during the COVID crisis, North Carolina hospitals are only allowing ONE of the adoptive parents to care for the child during hospitalization That parent needs to stay with the child throughout the hospitalization – they cannot come and go from the hospital.

For example: during the COVID crisis, there was a baby who was in the NICU for ten days after delivery. The hospital allowed the adoptive mother (pictured here) to stay in the NICU during that time. The adoptive father was able to see pictures through messaging but did not hold the baby until after discharge.

Q. Is there financial assistance for mothers during COVID-19?

A. Yes, we are offering more support. There are additional stressors on birth mothers due to unemployment and other critical logistics, such as fewer Uber drivers providing transportation services.

We can be flexible in how financial support is provided. We pay landlords directly, hotels by the week, and can even offer some housing expense reimbursement to your relatives if they take you in during your pregnancy.

When an Uber is not available, we are offering gas money/cards to reimburse friends or family members who provide transportation.

In addition, North Carolina law allows up to six weeks of support after delivery. So, we can help you get situated after you leave the hospital.

Q. When should I reach out to an agency about adoption for my baby?

A private adoption plan gives you choices about the family, as well as contact details between you, the family and the child as they grow.

The more notice an agency has, the more help we can give in terms of answering questions and making the process go smoothly. But, we will gladly work with you on an adoption plan at any time. We can quickly respond when childbirth is imminent, matching you with one of the nearly two dozen waiting families ready to bring a child into their home.

If you suspect that the Department of Social Services may get involved after your child is born because you are homeless or the baby may test positive for drugs, we encourage you to make your adoption plan as soon as possible, before delivery. Once DSS is involved, it is harder to make a private adoption plan and have choices regarding the family that cares for your child.

Q. Can I safely find and meet with the adopting parents?

A. Birth mothers traditionally locate an adoption agency or adoptive parent profiles through the internet. Fortunately, the internet is Coronavirus safe. All of our waiting families are listed on our website for birth parents to review. See the Family Profiles page.

At A Child’s Hope, we provide three ways for birth mothers to contact us. They call the pregnancy hotline at 877-890-4673, text Pregnant to 919-971-5663, or email admin@achildshope.com. The hotline operator then communicates with the birth mother and talks her through the process.

After the initial discussion, one of our seven adoption counselors spread throughout the state works with the mother. They communicate via phone, meet virtually, as well as arrange in-person meetings in open spaces such as parks or our sanitized agency offices. We ask that masks and gloves be worn, but we can meet.

We provide the same options to match meetings with adoptive parents. They can occur virtually or in-person practicing proper social distancing and wearing PPE.

Q: Ready to Learn More?

A: Call the pregnancy hotline TODAY at 877-890-4673, text Pregnant to 919-971-5663, or email admin@achildshope.com.

Going from Pregnant to Adoption Placement: Why September is a Busy Month

Pregnant - Thinking BabySeptember is always a very busy month at A Child’s Hope, with pregnant birth mothers heading to hospitals and waiting adoptive parents overjoyed to get to meet their new addition.

According to a Time Magazine article in September 2017, data compiled from U.S. births over the last 20 years prove that more babies are born in September than in any other month of the year, with September 9th being the most popular birthday, and September 19th being the second most popular.

The reason for the high number of births in September is simple. Count back nine months and you are in the Christmas to New Year’s timeframe when couples are celebrating and have time off from work and you guessed it — feeling romantic.

This September, A Child’s Hope is eagerly awaiting the birth of five babies who are already matched with adoptive families.

Pregnant to Placement: The Process

Every adoption event is unique. Late-term and at-the-hospital signings by birth mothers can be a whirlwind. Conversely, birth mothers that contact us shortly after they discover that they are pregnant can be an eight- or nine-month journey. Regardless of the advanced notice, there are several parts to the process A Child’s Hope adoption counselors follow to help make each placement a success for all involved.

  • Starting the Process – After a pregnant birth mother signs with the agency, an adoption counselor meets with her and helps her start prenatal care if she has not yet gone to a physician. She signs a HIPPA release form so that the agency can obtain her medical records. The agency works with her to offer counseling to ensure that she wants to place the child rather than parent and the agency tries to locate the birthfather to sign and provide DNA. A budget is also set up so that she can get financial support during the pregnancy.

 

  • Matching With a Family — When a birth mother is about eight weeks from delivery, home study-compatible waiting adoptive families are contacted and presented the opportunity of her child. This written “birth mother opportunity” includes gathered medical information, a physical description of the birth mother and birth father, some of the birth family’s backstory in an anonymous format and what the birth mother is looking for in an adoptive family.

 

  • Some Birthmothers Choose to Have the Agency Pick — A birth mother may also tell the agency to “pick” a family and then show her the profile or she may choose to not have a match meeting. But this is rare. Usually, birth mothers like to look at the profiles and make a decision about the family.

 

  • Choosing Whom Will Adopt the Child – In an independent adoption, generally, the pregnant birth mother, and father if he decides to engage in the adoption process, pick the adoptive parent, parents or family. This is done by looking at family profiles online and contacting the adoptive parents directly. In independent adoptions, the family and the birthparents work together directly without an adoption counselor.

 

  • Meeting of the Minds – With an initial match, the birth parent(s) and the adoptive parents meet, at least once, in what is known as a “match meeting.” An adoption counselor is always present to help them get to know each other.

 

  • Preparing for Baby – After all goes well, a final match is made and the legal team kicks into high gear. In an open adoption, many pregnant birth mothers and the adoptive families choose to spend additional time together, coordinated through the adoption counselor. Many adoptive parents are even included in the birthing process and have bonding time with the newborn during the hospital stay.

Starting Your Adoption Journey

If you, or someone you know, is considering adoption and would like to learn more, call A Child’s Hope at 919-839-8800, or Text PREGNANT TO 919-971-4396. You can also watch our placement day videos to hear recent adoptive parents share their stories adoption stories.

Pregnant? Not sure if you are able at this time to parent? If you are a birth mother and are looking to place your child in a loving home, contact our Birth Mother hotline to speak with an adoption counselor today at 877-890-4673 or Text PREGNANT TO 919-971-4396. To see placement day videos of A Child’s Hope families, click here. To see websites of our waiting families, click here.

For more information on the legal issues involved with adoption in North Carolina, visit parkerherringlawgroup.com.

Birthmother Hotline: (877) 890-4673

Envia Un Texto: (919) 218-6270

Text: Pregnant to (919) 971-4396